So the last couple days, I have been trying to work with my 8 year old son, Elliot regarding his behavior and the choices that he makes. Don’t get me wrong, he is a good kid, very smart, but sometimes he is incredibly impulsive and makes some poor choices. He struggles a lot with the punishments he is given and always asks for a second chance. (When that in all likelihood would be the 4th or 5th choice) 🙂
I have asked God to help me to talk with him and help him work on his choices and his accountability. On Tuesday night, we had a long talk at bedtime about how as men, we have to own our choices and accept the responsibility for our actions and sometimes that means facing the consequences of those actions. We talked about the fact that when mommy and daddy or his teachers just give him chance after chance after chance, he never truly owns his choices – his is giving up the responsibility of his choices to us. It will only be after he has owned his choices and accepted the consequences of his actions willingly that he can begin to change those behaviors. Every morning now we will remind each other to “Own our choices and Accept Responsibility for our actions” and each night will share one way that we did that.
And you know what, that wasn’t the amazing part – God didn’t give me those words to share with only Elliot – he knew that the lesson was for me too. I really hate it when He does that to me. (Not really though, but it really is “Just Like God” to use my parenting attempts to grow myself)